[VENT] How does your DH roll?

[Miss.September]

DH will do what I ask, but other than doing dinner sometimes or the dishes, he doesn't take the initiative. When he gets home from work, he plays with DD and I usually get a sleep-in on Sunday morning. But I know that if a nappy needs changing or the dogs need walking or housework needs doing it's up to me.

It used to bug me. Occasionally it still does, but rarely. I take pride in the fact that my house and garden are always neat and tidy because I do it. I find it easier to go through my routine with DD than have it all flipped around by DH. We used to fight a lot about it, but I let it go, for us there was more important things in life and we're all happier for it. I have no expectations so if he does something to help of his own accord, it's great. Don't get me wrong, I don't resent him for it and I don't do everything for him. But I make sure DD and the house are sorted and if he wants to ***** about how things are done, then he is welcome to pitch in and then he can change the routine (we had a fight about that once). I know if the shot hits the fan, he'll do what he can to help but for day to day, unless I give him direction, it's up to me and I'm fine with that.

Saying all of that, he adores DD and she him. But he'd rather play games and draw with her than doing the mundane stuff.